There are two more things I wish I'd said. But the conversation was over and I didn't want to reopen the discussion. It didn't go in the direction I'd hoped it would (That's polite talk for 'it went badly'). But I still have these two things to say:
1. Why would the midwife suggest prenatal classes if she is expecting to do all the work and we wouldn't need any of that information??
2. I have a strong feeling that the time will come when you wish you knew what to do to help. Other than hold my hand. Because you really do care.
And so I realize again that this really is all up to me. When push comes to shove (sorry!), I'm the one going to give birth, and I'm the one who has to do all the work in the end. I can't give that away to anybody else. I guess I just thought... I'm trying to get as much support as I can. Why are you so defensive about this?